tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6176819118574225816.post2460952692002531785..comments2023-04-19T11:46:37.766-07:00Comments on Nurture Your Hopes: What Not To SayFaithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03064955747540959696noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6176819118574225816.post-76497728400904585832010-06-15T10:17:49.025-07:002010-06-15T10:17:49.025-07:00I can relate to almost all of these. Im delighted ...I can relate to almost all of these. Im delighted for your friend who endured so much (and so many of these sorts of comments) and went on to have her child. These stories dont do too much to stoke my personal fires of hope, only because statistically, my chances remain the same. But I do suppose stories like these keep me going. Not making me think that somehow the statistics are different because I know of some people who have had good outcomes, but just knowing what people can go through without cracking. I wanted to add something that really bothers me, and that is anyone who says "at least". At least is never appropriate for people who have miscarried, lost infants, or are suffering infertility. At least you didnt miscarry later. At least you know you can get pregnant. At least you didnt have worse complications.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06921112333988542529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6176819118574225816.post-59819480579293779292010-06-14T11:15:59.791-07:002010-06-14T11:15:59.791-07:00LOVE THIS POST! Seriously, love it so much I want...LOVE THIS POST! Seriously, love it so much I want to marry it :P Perhaps we can fight to enforce a sensitivity license that everyone must get after a certain age so people know what asses they sound like when they make such insensitive comments... whether it is intentional or not.<br /><br />Wow, do I sound bitter or what?! Deep breath in, deep breath out... Om...<br /><br /><3 Jill<br /><br />P.S. I forgot that they missed one of my favorites. Comments along the lines of "I had (or I know someone who had) several miscarriages and now I (she) can't seem to stop popping out kids left and right, so enjoy your childless moments while you can." Sorry, can't do it!riversnakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15806447073079809610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6176819118574225816.post-75153690686432841082010-06-14T08:03:34.022-07:002010-06-14T08:03:34.022-07:00It must have been "what not to say" week...It must have been "what not to say" weekend. After reading your post, I was reading another friend's blog. Her son was born with a congenital heart defect and she posted "what not to say to parents of a sick child". How can people be so clueless when they open their mouths? Thanks for spreading awareness, Faith.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01886439068008420190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6176819118574225816.post-18068674225731143632010-06-12T08:36:54.295-07:002010-06-12T08:36:54.295-07:00I've not experienced pregnancy loss but having...I've not experienced pregnancy loss but having lost my baby through a failed adoption I have heard alot of those same comments. I have found that there is such a lack of compassion with a failed adoption as well, like "it wasn't your baby anyway so why are you sad?" But all those statements are so true, the do's and the do not's. Great post Faith.barbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06326440281332840980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6176819118574225816.post-34210518409147061312010-06-12T07:36:17.055-07:002010-06-12T07:36:17.055-07:00Amen sister! Great list, great post!!! Almost al...Amen sister! Great list, great post!!! Almost all of those have been said to me...ugh.<br /><br />Love ya! (((hugs)))Jodihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10960065826710834062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6176819118574225816.post-84149302648464004982010-06-12T07:30:13.278-07:002010-06-12T07:30:13.278-07:00This is so right on, Faith. Thank you for sharing...This is so right on, Faith. Thank you for sharing that. There are many people I wish I could have read this to a year and a half ago. I pray for you every day. Hopefully, we'll have our miracles soon!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01886439068008420190noreply@blogger.com