If You Adopt...

...then you'll get pregnant! Anyone heard that one before? There are so many things wrong with that statement and I really love Wendi's comments about it. Hop on over to her blog and see what she thinks about the myth that once you adopt, you are sure to get pregnant. She, like I, got pregnant soon after adopting her son. And so the comments go, "I knew that would happen," or "See? All you had to do was adopt!" or "That ALWAYS happens!" I cringed when I knew I was pregnant and adopting, because I knew those comments were coming and those comments seemed to imply that I adopted in an effort to get pregnant. And that is SO not true. Jason and I would have been just as happy and content with our son, Jackson, if he was our only child. We love him that much. Of course, we adore our daughter and wouldn't want our life any other way...but that is in no way an indication that Jackson wasn't enough, all on his own.

I'm not going to repeat what Wendi wrote, so head over there and see the statistic of how many adopting couples actually get pregnant after adopting. It's not that many. As she so smartly points out, it's more that you hear those stories more often simply because they are that spectacular and unique. People tell me all the time that they tell my story to people. I find myself being introduced as, "This is Faith and she adopted her son and had a baby 6 months later!" They find it that interesting because it doesn't always happen that way.

I absolutely don't believe that I "just relaxed" and that is why I got pregnant. In fact, I was anxiously awaiting a call to be matched when I became pregnant, not relaxed at all. Yes, I had let go of the intense motivation to get pregnant, but certainly the agonizing wait to be a mommy was not over! I believe that our children were always meant to be our children. They were meant to come how they did, when they did. We didn't know the plan, and thank God we didn't. Because we may have tried to mess it up. And what a mistake that would have been. What we have is perfect. They are perfect.

So, when you do repeat our story (and please do, we are beyond blessed and want the world to know it!), please do so in an educated way. That means leaving out the, "It happens all the time when they just relax!" part of the story. Because it's not true. And there are many implications to that, and we don't want our story to be a part of those implications. We of course want people to see hope, beauty and miracles in our story because that is what we see. So please share those pieces! This is our miracle....