Thursday, March 25, 2010

Infertility Etiquette

Well, you all have most likely read my previous post by now. I've had infertility on the brain, and I can feel it in my heart. It is heavy. I ran across an article, on the Resolve website, and I'd really like for everyone I know to read it. Read it all. Please. It spells out the pain and loss that we "infertiles" experience on a daily (ok, hourly) basis. It is not judgmental, or pushy, but instead is a great way to explain to people 1) What it is like to be us and 2) How you can (and can't) help.

To read, please go here.

I don't think you'll be disappointed. The reality is, I will always be an infertile woman. I will always carry the experience of failure as a woman and as a mom with me...always. Not only can I barely conceive a child, I can't carry a baby to term. Our babies died in my body. That knowledge is life altering. Almost everything they mentioned in this article has been said, or done, to me. And I have had so many moments of holding back tears from the pain, that I can't even count them anymore. So, I guess education is key. So others don't have to have the same pain. I hope you are able to share this link with your friends and family, too. I think there is a lot to be learned from it. No one says or does these things to hurt us. They just need more information, so here it is. Enjoy!


  1. ohhh.. sounds interesting! I havent read it yet.. but I'm fixin to! Love you Faith! xoxo

  2. I've thought about posting this article too...mainly for family and friends who can sympathize, but can't empathize with what we've been through. It's the perfect article.

    I will always be an infertile woman too. It's is and has been a very painful and tough pill to swallow. You wrote that you'll always live with that experience of failing as a woman....I so get that! You won't be a failure as a mom though. No way.

  3. So true. Sometimes I think people are mean and other times I think they just don't know. But, even when one doesn't know, how can they say such ridiculous things? I've had some of the dumbest things said to me. You are right's all about education.